WHO YOU ARE
Hey cupcakes!
It's been so long since your hungry eyes have been fed my addicting words and I'd like to sincerely apologise for that. I'm back now! Hopefully for good though *wink*
The title for today looks mundane and so normal like who you are is a topic that everyone has written something on and they've all written the same thing but this one is different believe me.
I'm done focusing on what people see, I'm more into what people feel. How they feel, How they express what they feel and if they have the freedom to express what they feel.
Do you have the freedom to express what you feel?
Most people take emotions with levity hands. Some see it as a sign of weakness while some see it as a waste of time and some see being emotional as being uncool. So well, if being emotional is uncool then we're all uncool cause let's not deceive ourselves, we humans are what they call walking emotions. It's how we were created so be like Vee and ACCEPT IT.
While everyone feels, not everyone displays their emotions and not everyone is allowed the freedom to feel (which is wrong on so many levels!)
Have you ever been choked with your own emotions?
There are times we so badly want to express ourselves, our frustrations, anger, sadness but we can't because the society doesn't allow it. The society means People, there's so much standard these days to meet and so much expectations that people enforce on each other not minding to what level they push each other but it's okay because it's the trend. If someone really gets you riled up and you want to voice out your thoughts you'll hear people saying "it's nothing, "it's what's happening these days", "it's no big deal!", " Deal with it ", "What can you do about it! "You're angry and so!", "Your words ain't valid" like they just don't care and as long as it's not happening to them you can literally suck up your anger and deal with it. I mean, you're human and while venting out your anger isn't "good", keeping it in isn't healthy either.
I personally think we should be allowed to vent once in a while, to just let out that frustration here and there when we get the chance because these things affect us whether we like it or not.
If our emotions keep getting shunned, we'll get so used to it that we lose our ability to express. We then find it hard to express the simplest emotions like happiness. Especially when we're hurt, we find it hard to let go, to cry, to let it all out because our subconscious will keep making us feel like even in our closet, we're being judged by what we feel. We still hear their words even when they're absent and that leads us to being totally different people because we've gotten so used to living up to their standards, to not showing disapproval at their choice of living, to not showing anger when they hurt us, to not having a chance to be sad when they wound us...
We get so used to that standard that we don't even Know who we are anymore since we play by their own rules and not ours.
Who are you?
Without these social standards, who are you really?
Without their scrutinizing gaze who are you?
Without their keen rules, who are you?
What do you really enjoy doing? Do you play/watch football because you're a guy and everyone expects you to like it?
Do you act all sassy and classy because that's how your friends are and that's the only way you think you can be accepted?
Do you eat salad because everyone likes 'em slim thick these days?
Do you make up different girls for your peers because guys your age expect you to have casual flings?
Do you smoke because that's what the cool guys do?
Do you read your Bible in secret because you're ashamed of your faith in God and you're scared they'll judge you by it?
All these questions probably sound absurd to you but it's what's happening now and what will keep happening and what might be happening to you in other areas but the important thing is that you learn from it and discover yourself.
They say human needs are in hierarchical order, the primary needs are the psychological needs (i.e food, shelter, clothes) and the last need (the most secondary of all) is self actualization and it is when we feel satisfied with who we are and what we are becoming– not living our lives by what people think rather by what we believe in.
So I ask you again, Who are you?
I hope this has helped you realize to an extent that you need to find yourself and that maybe the life you're living now is not yours but what people expect you to live.
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